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  • 5 Things That Happen When You're In A Healthy Relationship

    5 Things That Happen When You're In A Healthy Relationship

    1. You give each other alone time. Couples naturally spend copious amounts of time together, but being attached like Siamese twins crosses into dependent territory. Healthy couples are able to part ways when needed so their individual interests can flourish—whether that’s reading quietly in the bedroom or leaving home for a dance class.

    2. You’re able to say, “I’m sorry.” Just because you’re in a good relationship doesn’t mean you’ll never do wrong. Healthy pairs are willing step up to the plate of responsibility and offer a sincere apology and a strategy for not letting the misdeed repeat itself.

    3. You trust each other. In a healthy relationship, you don’t feel compelled to snoop to get the scoop because he’s already totally transparent. This can take time—especially for those of us with exes who’ve given us reasons to automatically mistrust our S.O.—but a good partner will take the time to prove he’s trustworthy until you simply know it in your heart.

    4. You make each other better people. When he’s around, you’re wittier, funnier, kinder, more generous—because that’s what he inspires in you. You encourage one another to take chances, and you build each other up when you’re down.

    5. You show each other gratitude. You don’t take the little things for granted. In fact, you can turn him taking out the trash or emptying the dishwasher into a five-minute-long compliment about how thoughtful and helpful he is. And he can give it right back.

  • The MGM Lion (1929)

    The MGM Lion (1929)


    You know that lion roaring at the beginning of old films?

    Yep, this is the moment these cameraman captured that iconic movie intro.

  • Sitting With Your Legs Crossed? Dangereous.

    Sitting With Your Legs Crossed? Dangereous.

     It Causes Back And Neck Pain

    In a perfect world, you’d sit facing forward with both feet planted squarely on the floor. Unfortunately, that rarely happens. Most of us shift our weight around, lean to one side or the other, or, yup, cross our legs.

    According to orthopedic physical therapist Vivian Eisenstadt, crossing your legs is just asking for back and neck pain. Sitting with your legs crossed puts your hips in a torqued position, which can lead to the rotation of one of your pelvic bones, she explains. Since your pelvis is the base of support for your spine, it puts unnecessary pressure on your neck and lower and middle back when it’s rotated and unstable. And the longer you sit with your legs crossed, the more pressure you put on your spine, which increases the odds you’ll develop an issue.

    It’s (Possibly) Linked To Spider Veins

    No one wants spider veins, but they happen — according to the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, about 55 percent of women and 45 percent of men in the U.S. have them.

    The medical community seems to be divided on the link between crossing your legs and spider veins. While some doctors say spider veins are solely caused by genetics, pregnancy, sun exposure, and frequently standing or sitting for long periods of time, others like Hooman Madyoon, MD, a cardiologist at Cedars Sinai Medical Center who specializes in the treatment of venous diseases, tells Yahoo Health that there is an indirect link between the two.

    It Elevates Your Blood Pressure

    It’s surprising, but true. Crossing your legs at the knee can temporarily cause your blood pressure to go up.

    Here’s why: The blood in your legs has to be pumped back to your heart against gravity, explains Madyoon. That’s already a tough enough task for your body, but when you cross one leg over the other, it increases resistance to the blood flow. As a result, your body has to increase your blood pressure in order to push your blood back up to your heart.

    You usually won’t feel any symptoms when your blood pressure goes up, but repeated, drawn-out increases in blood pressure can cause long-term health issues. So, planning to sit for a long period of time? Don’t keep your legs crossed.

    It Messes With The Nerves In Your Feet

    Crossing your legs doesn’t just impact the blood flowing back up to your heart—it affects the veins and nerves in your legs and feet, too.

    Crossing your legs at the knee can cause pressure on your peroneal nerve, the major nerve in your leg that passes just below your knee and along the outside of your leg, explains Richard Graves, a podiatrist who specializes in disorders of the lower extremities. This pressure can cause numbness and temporary paralysis of some of the muscles in your foot and leg, preventing you from being able to raise your ankle — what we know as that “pins and needles” sensation.

  • An orgasm a day can lower a man's risk of prostate cancer

    An orgasm a day can lower a man's risk of prostate cancer


    • Men who ejaculate more frequently lower their risk of the disease
    • Those who ejaculate 21 times a month or more cut their risk by 22%
    • This was compared to men who ejaculated up to 7 times a month
    • Theorists say orgasm flushes out cancer-causing chemicals and old cells


    Regular orgasms can reduce the risk of prostate cancer, a study has found.

    Men who ejaculate more regularly throughout their lives lower their risk of the disease.

    The researchers, from Harvard Medical School, did not explain why orgasms could lower prostate cancer risk.

    However it has previously been theorised that regular orgasms may flush out cancer-causing chemicals in the prostate.

    Another theory is that if sperm is regularly cleaned out to allow new cells to develop, it helps stop the build-up of old cells that might be more likely to turn cancerous.

    The prostate is a small satsuma-sized gland located between a man's penis and his bladder, whose main function is to produce a thick white fluid that is mixed with the sperm produced by the testicles, to create semen.

    The new study is the largest to date on the frequency of ejaculation and and prostate cancer.

    The researchers found that men in the 40-49 age bracket who ejaculate 21 or more times a month reduced their risk of prostate cancer by 22 per cent.

    This was compared to men who ejaculate four to seven times a month.

    While the researchers said they were unclear as to why ejaculation lowers the chances of prostate cancer, they called the results ‘particularly encouraging.’ 

    The study followed almost 32,000 healthy men for 18 years, 3,839 of whom later were diagnosed with prostate cancer.

    Men were asked about their average monthly frequency of ejaculation between the ages of 20 to 29, 40 to 49, and in 1991, the year prior to the questionnaire.

    They found that the more frequently a man ejaculated throughout his life, the lower his risk of prostate cancer at all three of these points in time.

    This was the case even when they adjusted their results to take factors such as diet, lifestyle and a history of prostate cancer screening into account.

    Dr Jennifer Rider, of Harvard Medical School and Brigham and Women’s Hospital, said the results are ‘particularly encouraging’ but should be interpreted with caution.

    She said: ‘While these data are the most compelling to date on the potential benefit of ejaculation on prostate cancer development, they are observational data and should be interpreted somewhat cautiously.

    ‘At the same time, given the lack of modifiable risk factors for prostate cancer, the results of this study are particularly encouraging.’

    She added more research should be carried out into the specific changes in the prostate caused by ejaculation, to understand how it reduces the risk of prostate cancer.

    The research was presented at the American Urological Society annual meeting in New Orleans in May. More than 1.1 million cases of prostate cancer were recorded in 2012, accounting for around 8 per cent of all new cancer cases and 15 per cent in men, according to figures from the World Cancer Research Fund International. 

    The causes of prostate cancer are largely unknown, but the chances of developing the disease increase as a man gets older. 



  • The Real Thing

    The Real Thing


    The Real Thing is locked away, heavily guarded and out of sight to the general public in a purpose-built vault in Atlanta, Georgia. Well, the recipe is, anyway. In December 2011, the recipe was retrieved from its original vault at SunTrust Bank and, under high security, was transferred to its new home, a high-security vault at the company’s World of Coca- Cola exhibition. No one knows for sure if the recipe is scribbled on a simple scrap of paper or in John Pemberton’s favorite recipe book. Either way, it is stored in a metal box, which in turn is housed inside a two-meter (6.6-ft) high steel vault. This vault is never opened, and is protected by a barrier that keeps the viewing public several meters away. The area is kept under surveillance with armed guards, while the door is shut and can only be opened through a keypad and a hand-imprint scanner. Needless to say, you will never see the inside of that vault or its contents.



     If we could sum up all female stereotypes into one sentence it would be, “Women care too much” and if we could sum all male stereotypes up into one sentence it would be, “Men don’t give a $*%&.” But there are plenty of people whose blood boils at these types of gross generalizations. Here are 15 male stereotypes men are sick of.


    They gloss over it when their friends ask what they’re doing on Sunday, and the true answer is, “Going to Target with my girlfriend.” They roll their eyes and moan and groan, right?. That’s not necessarily true! Guys have errands they have to run at Target too, ya know? If they really love you, they enjoy taking care of house chores together.


    If football is on in the room, you couldn’t possibly get a man’s attention. It’s like their brains shut off and they become yelling, huffing and puffing animals, right? Mmmm there are actually plenty of guys who, while they enjoy football, are perfectly mature and will engage you in conversation, even if a game is on nearby.


    All men hate salads and are embarrassed to eat your vegan cooking, wouldn’t you say? Actually, men hate weight gain and indigestion just as much as women do. Plenty of grown men are proud to eat healthy, and even swap healthy tips with their friends.


    If you and your friends are sitting around, analyzing someone’s relationship, your guy is going to quietly back away, isn’t he? Actually if he is an emotionally mature person, he probably enjoys talking about human nature too.


    Perhaps men aren’t as open immediately and indiscriminately as women are, but when they care about someone, they’ll talk about their feelings.


    Oh please: they’ve been looking for someone to spoon them and hold their faces in their bosom since they left their mothers. Cuddling is the best and everybody knows it.


    Most men assume you’re a b*tch if you give an assertive opinion, and don’t sugarcoat it, ammiright? Maybe terrified little boys. But grown men find a woman who is proud of her opinions attractive.


    If a guy has chosen to spend his life with you, it’s because he values your opinions, cherishes your advice, and cares about what’s happening in your life. Don’t accept anyone who tunes you out.


    After a certain age, a lot of men value a deep connection and commitment with someone they care about more than fleeting physical pleasure. 


  • 27 Reasons Why You Should Date a British Man

    27 Reasons Why You Should Date a British Man

     1. Everything sounds better in an English accent.

    2. Or a Scottish, Northern Irish, or Welsh one.

    3. Or any of the hundreds of regional dialects that make up the "British" accent.  

    4. British men have no problem saying sorry. In fact, they use it like punctuation.

    5. He understands the solution to most problems begins with a cup of tea.

    6. You will never run out of things to talk about, because there's always the weather. 

    7. He will never say no to wearing a costume, no matter how embarrassing.

    8. You can go to the pub any time, and you don't have to order food to legitimise the decision.

    9. Because there will always, always be time for a "quick drink." 

    10. Even when he's angry, he'll express it in a polite, measured way. The first time, at least.

    11. He will unwittingly do a number of old-fashioned, chivalrous things without thinking, like walking closest to the road to shield you from traffic.

    12. He will somehow cook a steak better than you, even if the only other thing he can prepare is beans on toast. 

    13. When presented with a barbecue, he will become strangely Australian.

    14. He is able to pull off tails or morning dress and look dapper, not like an idiot.

    15. His no-nonsense approach to male grooming means you'll never have to worry about his appearance.

    16. You always get Saturday afternoons to yourself (unless you support the same football team 

    as him).

    17. There's a tiny chance he might be related to royalty, or have a "country pile" in the family that you can escape to on bank holiday weekends.

    18. When he's not being polite, he's being sarcastic, and sometimes that's even sexier. 

    19. He'll hold your umbrella and give you his coat. But under no circumstances will he hold your handbag for more than 10 seconds. What if someone sees and thinks it's his?

    20. He will tolerate a lot more than other men, because he simply "didn't want to cause a fuss".

    21. He will pay for dinner.  

    22. His teeth will be absolutely fine, because that myth is entirely untrue.

    23. He knows how to tie a tie and put on cufflinks and, if you're very lucky, iron his own shirts.

    24. He will instantly endear himself to all men in your life by calling them "mate" and buying them a pint. 

    25. You'll never have to open a door for yourself again. At least not if he's been brought up properly.

    26. His internal dictionary of swear words and the many uses he finds for them will astound you.

    27. British men love to travel abroad, even if they usually need to be reminded to slather on the SPF 50 to avoid turning into a lobster.


  • 4 Signs Your Partner Is Going To Stay With You, According To Science

    4 Signs Your Partner Is Going To Stay With You, According To Science

     Does your partner put your needs first - or their own?

    The most likely to wed are ‘partner-focused’ couples - where the two people think of each other’s needs. People in these couples had the highest levels of conscientiousness, which suggests that they are very careful and thoughtful about the way they approach their relationship choices.


    How often does your partner say, ‘Thank you’?

    The key to whether relationships last over the long haul might be the frequency with which your other half says two little words. We found that feeling appreciated and believing that your spouse values you directly influences how you feel about your marriage, how committed you are to it, and your belief that it will last.


    Does your partner tend to listen - or dismiss what you say?

    If couples react negatively to each other all the time - for instance by dismissing or ignoring what the other says, the entire relationship can be poisoned. In relationships where both partners consider themselves as happy, bad behaviour is dismissed as unusual. In negative relationships, however, the situation is reversed. Bad behaviour is considered the norm.

    Does your relationship have a lot of ups and downs?

    Couples whose relationships have a lot of dramatic ups and downs are more likely to split up even that couples who argue.

    There are four ‘types’ of couple - dramatic couples (34%), whose relationship goes up and down, conflict-ridden couples (12%), who often argue, partner-focused couples (30%), who spend lots of time together and focus on each other, and socially involved couples (19%), with a lot of interactions with family and friends. Surprisingly, conflict-ridden couples aren't the most likely to split up - the most likely to split up are dramatic couples.


  • 10 Habits That Cause Rapid Aging

    10 Habits That Cause Rapid Aging


     1. Smoking

    Arguably the worst habit for your health, smoking is terrible in terms of rapid aging.

    It can contribute to wrinkles and shortens telomere length, which is a biological marker of aging according to WebMD.


    Save yourself the damage inside and out, avoid smoking tobacco products.


    2. Poor Diet

    Adiet high in sugar intake can accelerate aging more than you probably realize.

    Sugar can cause unhealthy weight gain even at a young age, however as humans get older our bodies have a harder and harder time breaking it down.

    This can lead to even more fat gain and damage skin complexion.


    3. Living Alone

    Many people don’t have a choice and are forced to live on their own, however this may be linked to aging quickly.

    In 2011 a study saw a connection between people who were lonely and a decline in motor skills, which increased their risk of death by up to 50 percent.

    Adopting a pet of some kind can really help the feelings of loneliness and may even prolong life.


    4. Sleeping Less than 5 Hours

    If you’re sleeping less than 5 hours, you could be aging faster than you should.

    In addition to dark bags under your eyes, Dr. Casciari at St. Joseph’s Hospital says a lack of sleep is linked to a shorter lifespan.

    Unintended weight gain is another side effect.


    5. Spending Most of the Day Sitting

    A sedentary lifestyle is one of the most dangerous ways to live.

    Don’t believe me? Sitting around all day increases your risk for obesity, cancer, cardiovascular disease, and kidney disease.

    People who exercise tend to live longer, healthier lives.


    6. Too Much On Your Plate

    Having too much on your plate (and this is not about food) can easily cause rapid aging.

    Stress is a killer, literally. When you are trying to do too many things at once all you are doing is causing yourself more stress.

    Unfortunately we live in a society where the ability to “multi-task” is held in high regard.

    We even include it on our resumes for jobs.

    The truth is multi-tasking is not good for anyone.

    Slow down. Do one thing at a time. Reduce your stress and live longer.


    7. Turn the TV OFF!


     It runs in the background all day and night.

    You may not even be aware but that TV is distracting you, it is upsetting you and it is luring you to sit down a lot more than you should.

    It can be very easy to become a drone and just sit in front of the TV whenever you can.

    Plan your entertainment time. Shut the TV off.


    8. Hydrate More

    Most people are mildly dehydrated and they never even realize it.

    Adding more water to your day can help to improve energy levels and ward off headaches. Give up sugary drinks.

    The sugar is bad for you, the chemicals used to give those drinks their color are bad for you and it is a habit that is causing rapid aging.

    Drink more water and less of everything else.


    9. Your Skin Care

    Put on sunscreen, every single day, no matter where you are going.

    Protect your skin from harmful UV rays that are a constant even when the day is overcast.

    Never leave home without putting on sunscreen.

    Moisturize every day with a good quality moisturizer.

    10. Have More Fun

    One of the biggest and best habits you can pick up to ward off aging is to have more fun.

    Do the things that you love. Smile more.

    Live in the moment!



  • 8 Marriage Myths That Arenít True.

    8 Marriage Myths That Arenít True.

    Don’t go to bed angry, never keep secrets, wave goodbye to sex and hello to ‘the one’, and your marriage will be happy ever after, right? Wrong. 

    There are a lot of myths that muddy the marriage waters. We spoke to relationships coach Sam Owen to tackle them one by one.

    Myth: A happy marriage has no secrets

    Actually, sometimes it is better to keep quiet. Even in marriage, honesty isn’t the best policy. “We mustn’t confuse being honest and loyal to our spouse with being open about every little thing about ourselves and our lives,” says Sam. 

    “If someone has told you something in confidence, your spouse shouldn’t know about it.  If there are things from your past that don’t impact your life with your spouse, they don’t need to know about it. Remember, sometimes, you don’t want to know everything about your spouse’s past, either.”

    So think twice before you overshare.

    Myth: Marriage must be 50/50 to work

    Obviously a balanced partnership is the ideal, but there are situations where a different split can work too. “Marriage is about playing to your strengths and as human beings that split may be 60/40 or 70/30 and this will fluctuate over time based on life events,” explains Sam. 

    “What you want to be equal are the values you live by such as love, trust, respect, commitment and friendship, and they can be 50/50.  Remember, marriage is about sticking it out through the good times and the bad, in sickness and in health, ‘til death parts you.”

     Myth: Marriage doesn’t change anything

     After all, almost everyone cohabits before marriage these days, so surely nothing really changes after the party’s over and you’ve got your piece of paper.

    Sam disagrees: “Marriage and cohabiting are entirely different. If you look at the stats, the satisfaction levels of those married versus cohabiting are significantly different, in that cohabiters experience lower satisfaction than they had expected from their relationship set-up. 

    “Committing to each other for life has massive psychological benefits, health benefits, boosts resilience and is a completely different mindset.” 

    Myth: Don’t take each other for granted

    Let’s be realistic. The mundane reality of day to day life makes it hard to always be thankful. Sometimes it’s unavoidable to go through phases where we might have to take each other for granted because there simply isn’t the breathing space to do anything else. That may be so. But, warns Sam, “it is easy to confuse complacency with expectancy”.

    “And we can expect our spouse to bring certain things into a relationship because we are a team and we got married on the proviso that we would remain a team for life. 

    “Complacency means lack of appreciation, and one of the biggest factors in a successful marriage is genuine, deep appreciation of one another.”

     Myth: Never go to bed angry

     Even if it means arguing all night? “As much as this is sound advice in terms of starting the next day on a good note, sometimes we need to sleep on a problem to solve it”, Sam explains. 

    “Research suggests the brain problem solves whilst we sleep so sometimes going to bed angry may benefit your perspective, approach and resolution.”

    Myth: Marriage will put an end to your sex life

    Okay, so the chances are you’re not having as much sex five, 10 or 15 years into marriage as you were in the early days of your relationship. Familiarity is inevitable.

    But it’s nonsense that marriage means the death knell for sex; intimacy is important.

    “If your sex life is dwindling or non-existent, you allowed it to be so either by becoming complacent, failing to prioritise it or by becoming silent about the issue,” Sam states.

    “You’re both in charge of mutual satisfaction in the marriage so if you want to fix something, do what you need to fix it, whether alone or with the help of a professional.

     Myth: Having kids brings you closer together

     “Or can drive a further wedge if your relationship is already flailing,” Sam points out.

    “Having kids can bring major changes to the relationship dynamic and bring challenges to health, finances, quality time together, alone time for the individual and more.  So, if you already have problems, they may be exacerbated with the extra pressures upon you both.”

    Myth: Marriage is easy when you’re with ‘the one’

    Of course it is unlikely that ‘the one’ truly exists, in the sense that for each person there is a destined partner, out there somewhere and just waiting to be found.

    However, as Sam points out, many people do feel that they are with ‘the one’. She suggests a better definition: “Someone who is the perfect complement to you and your life, which is likely what you are looking for”. Which sounds like a much more realistic, and a really rather lovely, way of thinking of it.  

    She adds: “Sometimes marriage is easy, sometimes it isn’t, but it is beautiful and amazing, regardless”.



  • How to keep the love alive in your relationship

    How to keep the love alive in your relationship

    Your relationship with your partner is one of the most important in your life. You go through the world together sharing experiences, friendships and even children. But that doesn’t mean it’s always going to be easy. Over many years of counselling, one thing I am certain of it’s that often marriages and relationships can be saved, and sometimes they can even be better than before.


    Making the empty nest a happy nest

    One of the peak times for relationships to hit a crisis is when the children finally leave home.


    Suddenly you are a couple on your own again. You have all that time on your hands but when you really look at your relationship, are you still in a relationship with your best friend, to your lover or are you just… well, together? When you first fall in love, it’s natural to want to spend all your time together, to make love whenever you want, to talk without being constantly interrupted. But over years that changes. So often, with the demands of the children growing up, there is not enough time to give to the one person you promised to love and cherish above all others. Perhaps you have grown apart or are even questioning the future of the relationship.


    New Opportunities

    New figures from the Office for National Statistics (ONS) found that while divorce in virtually all age groups has decreased there was an increase in the over-50s. But it is possible to buck that trend.


    Now is a good time to have the courage to really look at your relationship. Build on what is really good about your partnership but also be honest with each other about the things that are perhaps not working and what you would like to change. Talk about how you would like things to be now and in the future.

    This is your chance to turn the next stage of your life into a very loving, fulfilling and exciting relationship where you both feel loved and supported.


    Regaining emotional closeness

    One thing that women really want is for the partner in her life to be emotionally open so that you can both really trust each other and talk about everything together.



    Start with praise for the things they do well.

    Gently explain how much it would mean to you to be emotionally closer to each other again. Explore what they would like from you, so it’s a two-way track. Be patient. While some partners are good at this, others often find it quite difficult.


     New horizons

    Rekindling the physical side of your relationship may be high on the agenda. With this newfound freedom it’s lovely to be able to make love whenever you want. It may not be as often as when you were younger, though it could well be more often than when the children were always around. 


    Most important is the quality of the time you spend together, so that you each understand what gives the other person pleasure and try new things. Equally important is to be affectionate, to touch and kiss and hold hands, and to say ‘I love you’ often. Now you can spend more time together, try to see friends and have fun. There’s more time to take up new interests and to go on romantic or exciting holidays, to climb mountains, visit the art galleries and museums that perhaps bored your children, or to just sit on a romantic beach watching a beautiful sunset. It’s the time where you can become best friends and lovers once again.

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